
I am the father to a wonderful one year old. She is funny, smart, beautiful, a little crazy, and the love of my life. The day before yesterday she was in our backyard for the first time and I turned to her and let her know that she was the reason why we had grass back there. When we bought the house it was all weeds and leaves in the front and back, so I worked for a few months getting the yard ready for sod while also working with my mom and wife on a terracing project. It took forever, but when everything was done, we had transformed the exterior of the house.
What I didn’t tell the tow head in the backyard was that she is the reason I’ve done everything in my life. I remember being in middle school and wanting a stable source of income, in a job that I liked so I could support a family. Of course, being the President of the United States is different than being a 6th grade teacher
but that drive pushed me through school. I also wanted to find someone who I could build a family with. I met her at college as I worked toward my degree. So everything I am has been in preparation for my little one. I truly hope that I measure up to the goal I’ve been working towards for years.
So what does this have to do with a blog about education? A few months ago I had a teacher in my building tell me that a girl in one of my classes told her during a lesson that, “Mr. ____ is like my second father.” Now I hadn’t pulled some above and beyond, Freedom Writers, Ron Clark Story, Insert-teacher-in-Hollywood-movie-where-they-save-the-kid-from-a-bad-environment, move. I had just taught her and treated her like every other student. The kid has probably forgotten she said it, but for me it’s one of those things that I will never forget.
On Father’s Day we take time to recognize those men in our lives who raised us, or had some sort of influence on our lives. We also give ourselves an attaboy if we’re doing a decent job at being a dad. Although this applies to everyone I’m also putting special emphasis on teachers here because we spend hundreds of hours a year teaching children who are not our own. Male teachers, and especially the rare breed at the 6th grade level and below, you may not receive a card but you too may be seen as “like” someone’s second dad.
You have the opportunity to be a good role model and helper for all of your students. It’s a literally awesome (from the Oxford American Dictionary which has my favorite definition of the word: extremely impressive or daunting; inspiring great admiration, apprehension, or fear) responsibility and privilege. So remember that.
Happy Father’s Day to the Biological, Non-Biological, and “kinda like” dads who influence us everyday.